Every Chinese girlfriend I hang out with later tells me that I hurt her, but I don’t know why they think that, or how I hurt them. I don’t try to hurt them, it just happens. Foreign girls sometimes say the same thing, but far far less, so I think maybe it’s a cultural thing? I'm not very good at culture. Again, I’D NEVER hurt a girl on purpose, so why do they tell me I hurt them? I don’t want to hurt ANYBODY, so how do I stop if I don’t know my problem?
They usually say I hurt them because I’m “too much” for them and they “can’t take it.” Does this mean I talk too much or I’m too wild when I drink? They complain the most if I drank the night before. I don’t think I’m annoying when I’m drunk, but maybe I am because a couple of girlfriends say they can only handle me for a little while when I’m drunk, but the more time goes on the more they I cause them pain. Also, I guess I drive them crazy because they all say I make them want to climb a wall. I’ve been trying to be more chill.
My last girlfriend even told me once that I “broke” her and she doesn’t think she’ll ever be the same again. How could I have broken her spirit!? I didn't notice any change in her personality, plus I was always really nice to her.
I feel really bad about this so I want to figure out what I am doing wrong. Help me GZStuff, please! What can I change?
Chinese girls: has a foreign guy hurt you before? if so, how did he hurt you? is it culture, or attitude?
Chinese guys: do local girls tell you the same thing? what do you do if they do?
Foreign guys: have you heard the same thing? did you ever figure out what you were doing wrong?
Foreign girls: do other-country-guys hurt you? can you tell what i'm doing wrong?