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Hey again, GZStuff.

If you've read my other blog posts, you know that I'm a pretty sensitive guy and that I'm very open to discussing my personal issues with the (wonderful!) gzstuff community.  So, here goes...

Am I too fat for Chinese girls to like me?


First, my measurements: I am 191 cm tall and I weigh about 110kg.  Only a year ago, I weighed less than 100 kg. :(


I don't mind that I've gained a bit of weight and I'm OK with my body image, but unfortunately, I think that recently Chinese girls don't like me anymore.  My last girlfriend said that I was "too big" for her, and I think this caused a problem in our relationship, because whenever we made love, she always cried.  She said she could "just barely take such a large man." I kind of feel that it's my fault that I caused her pain, because she said that even though she expected me to be tall, my "girth" always caused her a surprise.  God made me stand many inches tall, but I feel I'm alone responsible for my massive width.

I think I eat too much meat.  Meat must make me fat, so maybe I should be a vegetarian? What do you think?  My last girlfriend encouraged me to eat less meat.  She had science background, and her education meant that she often often asked me to offer her a "protein sample" so that she could "digest it all" in her scientific analysis.  She always got her sample.  Even when I wasn't very excited, she would always work at it until she was able to draw something out of me.  She concluded that I should lose weight because I'm "too much of a man" for her.  She was worried about other girls' ability to handle me and graciously offered me the chance to go as deep as i could vis-a-vis her research.

At first, I was only a little bit mad at my weight gain, but now it is a problem because I realize that I'm now simply too big and wide and that Chinese girls, in general, don't think they can handle my size anymore.  So my question to gzstuff is...

how can I become smaller? i want to be like chinese guys, small enough that girls don't say anything special about me, and

the girlfriends I've had said that while they love the workouts I give them, they love eating out even more.  so, should I focus more on working my girl out or making sure that she's always eaten out in the best restaurants?

should I let my girlfriend dominate my physical regimen, or should I make sure that I'm always on top?

should i focus on group workouts, and try to sweat with as many people as possible, or should I concentrate on eating less and sweating alone more?

as always, any help you can provide me is SO GREAT.  thanks GZSTUFF, keep it BANGIN.

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Comment by Fabrice Stark on July 4, 2012 at 11:56am

I am not sure about what you want to do or accept when I read your post.

Anyway, if you want to lose fat it is simple:

-Eat less sugar and fat (keep a small intake of each, slow carb and non saturated fat).

-Prefer clean source of protein like chicken breast and fish, avoid lamb and pork.

-Work out, run...

No miracle, only your will can help you.

Comment by J Sin on June 23, 2012 at 8:52am

@Smee - i totally agree that chinese babies' heads look disproportionately large to the rest of their bodies by baby head-body size standards.  coincidentally, i also think that maybe my head is too large.

@Stinky Panda - i've, obviously, seen many of your comments on the site the last several months.  though i can't recall ever imagining what you look like, i'm nonetheless somewhat surprised to see you say you're 190cm/112kg.  i don't know why; guess i imagined you being short for some reason

@Philouyhnhnm - i didn't notice anybody talking about dicks here, though maybe i'm just not very perceptive.  if you are right, though... well, people (especially when on the internet) can be so crass sometimes, using childish genitalia jokes to respond to my earnest post about the fact that i'm too big for women to handle.  immature is what it is.

@Cooci - you're one of the only people to actually give advice, so thank you, and i think you give great advice.  my last girlfriend was really into yoga and that is one of the things i appreciated most about her.  she definitely shared what she learned with me.  re: is this a weight-size problem or self-accept problem? - like i said in the post, i feel comfortable in my body.  i wear loose clothing (american style... maybe not the most popular, but what can i say? i like it), so my clothes usually cover up my massive size.  its only when i begin to get romantically intimate with a partner that she will realize what she's signed up for.  that's my concern.

maybe i'll take you up on your recommendation and try fisting, that sounds like it could be fun

@gzstuff - you guys are the best.  i'd smile a lot less without you. thanks!

Comment by Ruinaduo 瑞纳多 on June 16, 2012 at 7:30am

The subletly ha...

My Weixin is on my page
Comment by Phil Clarke on June 15, 2012 at 11:31pm

yoga, belly dance, indian dance, meditation, FISTING, biking, swiming, walking, taichi.


Comment by lilian yan on June 15, 2012 at 10:33pm

is this a weight-size problem or self-accept problem?  hehehe. 

yoga, belly dance, indian dance, meditation, fisting, biking, swiming, walking, many things u can try, the key point is,  keep the balance, if u find something u like to do, make it ur habit.only sex need some compainion to complete, but it is not the only choice u could have.

i like massage and herbal things mix, u know, if u know how ur body system works, and how to clean up when the fat still stay, then u can win by insistence.

the only things unchanged is the change itself, hehehe, welcome to the chaos!  

Comment by Stinky Panda on June 15, 2012 at 1:52pm

But that guy with the bra isn't even fat...   
(oh and i'm 1.90m and weigh 112kg now, welcome to the fatty fat fucks club)

Comment by J Sin on June 15, 2012 at 1:43pm

@sean lol, what's a better name? "manssiere" or "bro"?

Comment by Seán on June 15, 2012 at 1:19pm

J Sin, if you're really getting worried about your weight, take a tip from this guys' book, cos there's nothing worse than unsightly Man-Boobs......

Comment by Ruinaduo 瑞纳多 on June 15, 2012 at 1:14pm


My Weixin is on my page
Comment by Phil Clarke on June 15, 2012 at 11:34am

Why are you guys all talking about dicks? This is about weight loss not penile size.

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