Everyone wants to love and be loved , love is not always eaasy , but the oppsite is loneliness, which is downright miserable at times . anyone can increase the amount of love in their lives , even if they don't find a special person to marry . love comes in other forms that can be almost as satisfying as a good marriage . and keep in mind that even loneliness beats being locked into a miserable marriage situation ! so , how can find love in your life ?
Love is not primarily something you will get , but something you must give . If you are looking to give love first without giving it , you are likely to be disappinted . it is by giving first that you will increase the love in your heart . if you make a practice of loving others , you will probably wake one day and find that you are greatly loved in return .
It’s the same in romance too , it all starts with a giving heart . the man or woman who will be treasured by their spouse some day is one who has that other person’s comfort , happiness , and well-being first and foremost in their mind at all times . selfishness is the direct opposite of love , and being selfish cannot help but render a person virtually unlovable.
So the first step in finding love is to be selfless . this does mot come naturallt to any of us . especially in matters of romantic love , we want out desires to be fulfilled . but think about the goladen rule for a moment . what do we want ? do we want out loved one to simply ues us to meet their needs without considerin ours ? of course not . it is dehumanizing to be used for someone else’s purppses with no thought to our own needs .
Branch out and give of yourself . when you do find that special person you’d like to get to know better . don't rush them when dating . treat them like royalty . but be honest . don't try so hard to win their affections that you become a phony . if you do , you will never be able to keep up the act after you win them . the result will be disappointment for both you and your friend . honesty , giving , and being part of life are all ways that you can find love in your life .